Though their relationship is largely nonexistent at the moment, “We’ve asked her parents and continue to do so, ‘Is it Carly not wanting contact?” Catelynn noted. “Because if it’s Carly not wanting contact, it would hurt, but we would understand and say, ‘Hey, if you ever want to have it, we’re here and we totally understand that all of this could be hard for you.'”
That being said, she continued, “If it’s just her parents acting out of fear, it’s my duty as a birth mom to show this child that I’m continuously fighting for communication, because that’s what’s ultimately the best for her, if that’s what she wants.”
Because at the end of the day, she stressed, Carly’s desires are the only ones that truly matter.
Her hope is that her future relationship with Carly “is whatever she wants,” said Catelynn. “Whether she just wants a relationship with her biological siblings, if she wants to have a relationship with us, awesome. If she doesn’t, totally understand. Whatever that looks like for her. Because it needs to be adoptee-centered.”