Selling Sunset’s Maya Vander Says She’s Taking It “One Day at a Time” After Stillbirth of Son

E!: How did you talk to your kids about this?

MV: My daughter doesn’t understand because she’s like one-and-a-half. My son, he doesn’t fully understand. But when he sees my husband and I, when we cry, he tells us, “Don’t be said, mommy” and it breaks my heart even more. He didn’t ask me, “Where is the baby?” because I don’t think he understands. I think once they do understand, I would always tell them they had a brother. They will know the story.

E!: What kind of resources have you found in terms of a support system? 

MV: I wish I could just be a strong person and just brush everything off, but it’s just not the case. People know my pregnancy because of the show, so a lot of women reach out to me. They send me emails. They share their stories. It helps me to read—and especially a lot of them did have a successful delivery and a baby after. That’s something that I would really like to have: I really would like to have another baby and have a nice sweet experience at the end. 

E!: How have your castmates been there to support you?

MV: They always check on me. They text me. They do what they can do to support. I think they were all shocked and very, very sad for me, and they’ve been just very supportive. Very, very sweet. All of them.

E!: What is something you want to share with others?

MV: I just wanted to say that I’m very thankful to all our friends and support system. We’ve been getting a lot of love and it is just nice to know that people care and they try to be strong for us. I appreciate all the help. To all the women out there that experience the same thing, it’s not their fault and just to be strong.

(This interview has been edited and condensed for clarity.)

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